I was listening to Dr. Laura Schlessinger’s tough love radio program last night and a caller was asking why they had the habit of zoning out.
Zoning out to them meant that they would space out or go from one thing to the next to the next, starting all kinds of things and never finishing anything.
Dr. Laura’s reply was that the caller was going into the screw you zone.
The caller was asked if they had a domineering parent and of course the answer was yes.
As a child the caller could not do anything right in the eyes of the parent and they were either emotionally or physically attacked and they zoned out as a way of coping.
This zoning out became a habit that is sabotaging them in their adult life.
The comfort zone term that we use in business is really about the screw you zone or zoning out.
The screw you zone means that the caller’s ego would say to the parent “if I can do anything right then screw you, I’ll just zone out” which again was a way of coping when the child was either getting their head emotionally or physically bashed against the wall.
The challenge now is that the child is now emotionally or physically attacking themselves in their adult life with their inherited limiting beliefs that center around “I can’t do anything right”, inherited limiting emotions of anxiety and fear and the granddaddy of all unmet needs, worthiness.
The core of this is anger and they are taking out the unresolved anger with the parent in the present in the form of revenge on themselves.
Their subconscious mind is telling them that they are not worthy and that they can’t do anything right so they start a lot of different things and don’t finish them so that they can’t be told what they fear the most.
The solution.
Pick one small thing and get it completed.
Not a have to.
Do it as a gift to yourself.
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