John has the Midas Touch and he has driven himself to meet and exceed all of the goals that he set out to accomplish in both his business life and personal life.
Well almost, not without the setback of the loss of his first and second marriages combined with the estranged relationships that he has with his children from his first marriage.
Despite the setbacks, he is still accomplished in his business and he exceeds the levels of success of his peers, yet he is feeling unfulfilled which makes his material accomplishments feel worthless, and he feels like throwing it all away.
John flirts with disaster with his closet drinking which increases his self judgment. John thinks to himself; “what is wrong with me anyway?” He thought that achieving goals and money was supposed to make him happy after all of this hard work.
John did all the right things and he trained and willed his behaviors to include;
• Decisiveness creating the fuel for the drive to succeed
• Communication and sales skills that attracted clients far and wide
• Stability that is rock solid so that everything is under control and in its place
• Understanding products and services to meet his clients every need
Components of all of these characteristics turned out to be his Achilles Heel because while there are many benefits to adapting his behaviors so that he could be all things to all people, he had lost touch with himself in the process.
These adaptations lead Tom to;
• Becoming angry with himself and others
• Imagining that he could not do enough for himself and others
• Becoming a workaholic
• Indulging in critical self talk causing him to feel victimized by his internal abuse
For what has tuned into years, Tom has searched far and wide for the root cause of him judging himself to point where he is really beginning to believe that there is something wrong with him.
What is the source of his dysfunction that causes the relentless drive for approval, control, power, recognition and worthiness, and what can he do about it?
This is a work of fiction. Names, characters, places and incidents are either the product of the author’s imagination or are used fictitiously, and any resemblance to any actual persons, living or dead, events or locales is entirely coincidental.
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