An Emotional Weekend

Marketing is the process of elimination. There will be some that like me and some that do not. My blog is about the business and personal coaching work that I do with financial advisors that I serve and about the experiences of my personal journey along the way. The outcomes are to give you some real life experiences with the hope that you can grow from my experience, make me more real and to give you every opportunity to like me – or not.

Laura and I were in Agassiz/Chilliwack over the weekend to make arrangements for my mom Irene to go from hospital where she has been since Feb 19 to extended care.

We went to a residential personal development workshop called The Wall on Thursday, February 19^th and did not find out that my mom had gone into hospital with COPD – a chronic respiratory condition until we got home on Sunday, February 22nd.

We have been back and forth to Chilliwack hospital for the past month along with me speaking and travelling to Calgary & Vancouver, Edmonton & Saskatoon, Kitchener, London & Toronto.

We thought my mom was going to die at one point. She has taken a turn for the better but cannot go back to her assisted living apartment in Agassiz.

So we spent Saturday March 21^st, emptying out her assisted living apartment, separating the little that she will keep as they will only allow so much in extended care from the rest that will go to the sale and the goodwill.

A rather sobering experience.

The good in this is I am staying breathing and allowing myself to feel and stay consciously awake to make sure that my mind does not get sucked into making this experience of sadness about everything else that is going on in our lives.

To some this may sound insensitive but it is the most sensitive that I can be to allow space for compassion for my mother Irene, Laura, Laura’s mom Helen and myself … this is healthier than being stricken by guilt and sorrow for what could have been, all that is real is in the now.

I mention Laura’s mom Helen because she is a huge part of our lives and she has been in and out of emergency with heart complications following the stints that she had recently … Helen has been in for numerous tests and the problem has been indentified and Helen will be fine although she may not be able to golf like the pro that she is at 78.

Thanks to all of you for this journaling … a healing journaling to write this to you, to Laura and to myself.

It is said that the best thing that one can do in this situation is to breathe and associate to the feelings by way of journaling as an example rather than bottling everything up inside. 

When feelings are bottled up inside, there is no telling where they are going to end up.