Someone came up with a quote; “There is door number one marked Freedom and door number two marked Security”. If you choose door number two you will lose then both”.
Let me take it a step further.
Door number one is marked; Fulfillment.
The definition of Fulfillment is;
fulfillment – a deep, soul-orientated feeling that one experiences when they are expressing their values, as in being themselves.
Door number two is marked; Approval, Control, Perfection, Power, Recognition, Safety & Worthiness
If you choose door number two you lose them all.
Note! If you need control and power over something, they have contol and power over you.

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