It’s Thursday evening and I have returned home after speaking at Advocis Victoria.
I’m reflecting on the way that one can give thanks after completing a client or a speaking presentation.
The attractive and functional way to give thanks from the heart is to quietly acknowledge that your client or your audience received value.
The unattractive and dysfunctional way to give thanks on behalf of your ego is to make a lot of noise about proving that you were good enough … or better than … or that you beat them … as if it was some kind of battle.
When your ego is involved, it is always a battle to get your unmet needs met from your client or your audience.
It is impossible to get your unmet needs met from your client or your audience.
If you try to get your unmet needs met from your client or your audience it will make your client or your audience feel like they were “taken” advantage of in some way because your ego is always trying to take and get its inadequacies and unmet needs met of approval, control, recognition, safety and worthiness from someone or something outside of the true self.
Duchovny of The X Files fame was wrong; the answer is not out there.
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