In advance of exhibiting and speaking at the GAMA LAMP Conference in March, I’m writing a series of articles that segue into the speaking presentation that I am delivering; Becoming a Compassionate, Inspirational Leader and Manager.
Is Your Vocation To Bring Spiritual Consciousness Into The Business World Of Insurance And Money?
You are a successful leader and manager. You are passionate about mentoring and developing successful advisors, helping them to create a career of significance and become the best, most passionate version of themselves.
Did you ever consider that part of your role is also to bring spiritual consciousness into the business world of insurance and money? That may sound like a tall order, but if you think about it, bringing spiritual consciousness is part of what you are trying to do every day, in many different ways.
Inspirational leaders and managers understand that it is more important to define yourself first by WHY you do what you do, rather than HOW and WHAT you do. Inspirational leaders and managers:
- know how to lead with intention, purpose and compassion;
- help the people on their team understand what their values are;
- inspire them to have purpose and meaning beyond the tasks they perform;
- help them link their values to goals and activities.
In fact, leadership is inspiring people by exhibiting your own core values. Some of my inspirational values are compassion, empathy, listening, sense, teaching and wisdom. Success therefore becomes more values-based, when one gives up the unmet needs of approval, control, perfection, power, safety and worthiness. That said, your inspiration must be managed in order to get out of your head and be in the heart of the moment; to be grateful and compassionate; to be a spectator to your own thoughts, gaining insight and to be of service to others.
This may make sense to you as a successful leader, but wouldn’t it be great if everyone in the business world of insurance and money thought in these terms?
So many people in the business world of insurance and money want the value of the heart and the soul, but realistically, they “don’t want to go there.” Instead they are driven by the amygdala’s false belief that they are not enough and they don’t have enough, all fueled by valueless unmet needs of approval, control, perfection, power, safety and worthiness.
Here’s a possible scenario: You have followed your values, vision, mission and purpose, met and exceeded your goals and the expectations of the company, and as result of the compensation that you pre-negotiated, you have been rewarded in kind. You now find yourself in a difficult business meeting where a Vice President is frustrated with both you and the President of the company because oddly enough, you created too much value for the company and made too much money in the process. Because of the Vice President’s unresolved unmet needs like approval, control, perfection, power, safety and worthiness, the Vice President is always trying to prove his worth to the President, but he can’t win for losing, because the Vice President’s amygdala believes he is worthless, so he is attacking those who are trying to bring value to the business. The Vice President is also projecting this negative state of mind onto everyone at the meeting (including you). In addition, the amygdala of the President of the company is getting triggered by her own unresolved unmet needs like approval, control, perfection, power, safety and worthiness, and she gets into a state of guilt, thinking she could have done more to help the Vice President to not feel that way. So, the President, not knowing how to deal with the amygdala’s manufactured guilt, then projects the guilt into the outside world, trying to get rid of it by blaming others. You are in the path of the blame and the blame shows up in the form of; you have to work much harder because you created too much value for the company and made too much money in the process.
Scenarios like this play out in many of our social groups all the time. For some people, simply walking away and avoiding these scenarios, or these people, may feel like a solution. But as a leader, your vocation is to bring not only yourself back to your original state of mind, but to bring those around you back to their original state of mind, and ultimately, bring spiritual consciousness to the group. But how and where do you begin to do this? I’ll talk about how to bring spiritual consciousness to the group in an upcoming blog.
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December, 2017
Brian Counterman
Counterman Insurance Inc. (Allstate)
Littleton CO
Coaching with Leading Advisor has given me a level of accountability to meet and exceed my goals and truly work towards leaving a mark on this world. Our industry uses the word accountability a lot, yet when speaking with others many of us feel like we are on an island. Taking on an enormous amount of responsibility in life and in turn not fully realizing our potential. Through each coaching session I have learned how to break down my responsibilities and put them into an achievable perspective. To truly understand that in order to make a difference for everyone I need to first and foremost – strengthen myself. I did not expect to receive this level of understanding and accountability from the coaching program. The program has provided a safe, healthy, non-judgemental environment with empathy, understanding and a clear path to re-engage the truth about myself and get back into flow quickly, no matter what arises. This opportunity to learn the skills required and consistently apply them will provide me with continuous growth and success for years to come.
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