Welcome to Part 4 of 5 of my MDRT – The Inspirational Tipping Point Presentation. This is the submission that I provided to qualify to speak at the MDRT.
It is absolutely essential that you understand your Values so you can stay inspired because the success you’re trying to achieve will be unsustainable. This also ties into the laws of attraction. The laws of attraction are absolute. I’ve already explained it, I’ll just review it again. In fact this is actually the missing link as to Why the law of attraction is not working for some people. Simply put the law of attraction is, know your Values. They will help you to generate Positive Beliefs and Positive Feelings but the fly in the ointment is the Unmet Need.
Putting it into a business context, what’s one of the biggest problems that businesspeople have? Time management, and they’ve been to every time management seminar known to humankind and they have the book on the shelf to prove it but they’re still struggling. I contend it is the need of safety, and that’s generating I have too much to do. I’ll never get it all done. Anxiety and fear once again and it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy because there is an addiction tied into the Unmet Needs and they can’t seem to understand how to get out of it.
This also ties back to Abraham Maslow’s hierarchy of needs theory from 1955, about the time the TV set came on stream, the Unmet Needs meeting device, now we all have one. Level one is physiological need, level two is safety, level three is social, level four is esteem, and level five is self-actualization. Let me ask you this, who is the Self? And I contend that you are a Being. You are something more infinite. You are not your body. You were not your mind but you are certainly not the little walnut-sized amygdala, ego or limbic brain, emotional brain, Seth Godin calls it the lizard brain, that controls us with Unmet Needs. You are something far more significant.
Now Unmet Needs are not all bad. They’re a blessing and a curse. Imagine a grain of sand. It goes into the oyster, after twenty five years a beautiful pearl is created but the problem is there’s a grain of sand, there’s an irritant in the middle of the pearl.
I’ll put it into a business context. I deal with business people and there’s an expression, it’s called the Plateauing Out syndrome. Clients say to me, I don’t know what’s going on. I have three cars, I have three houses, I have three resort homes, I have three of everything, they have three families, they have three wives, and they’re saying, is this all there is? I thought I was going to turn around and feel differently, and I thought I was going to be a hell of a lot happier. There is nothing wrong. There’s an absence of understanding. While these Unmet Needs are a blessing in the beginning, they actually turn out to be a curse. There’s an expression… I mentioned the amygdala, ego, or limbic brain, the emotional brain, Seth Goden called it the lizard brain, it doesn’t know what it wants but it is always wanting, and it is always judging. It is always judging. It is never ever satisfied.
Now, the point I want to make about family. How many of us had our needs met in the family of origin? Some did; some didn’t. Is it the family’s responsibility? Well yeah, if they’re conscious of it but they are not to blame. They are not to blame. You cannot give something that you do not have and it is up to us not to judge the family, to understand that they did their absolute best but as adults we just have to understand that it’s normal to run Unmet Needs of safety and approval and recognition. How do you get a need met? It’s very simple. You could do it with this affirmation. Next time you’re outside, you could close your eyes and just walk out in the sunshine and feel the radiant warmth of the sun on your body and you could say thank goodness I’m alive and remind yourself because the amygdala is about three years old and again it’s confused and it’s always wanting.
Just like the Universe, you are always expanding. The question is, what are you expanding? Are you consciously expanding your Values, Positive Feelings and Positive Beliefs or are you creating a never ending black hole fueled by Unmet Needs, Negative Emotions and Negative Beliefs?
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