Family or Business Systems Theory?

Yesterday was a fabulous day and the speaking presentation went very well for the Certified Financial Analysts Association. The reason that I say this is when there are 30 people in the audience and 30 people leave their business cards for more information, you gotta know there was value.

Over the course of my day, a component in Family Systems Theory came to mind.

“When one person changes, whether it is in a Family or Business Family, the entire Family or Business Family changes.”

The reason is that when one person changes their values and behaviors to an inspirational approach versus the fear based approach of the ego’s unmet needs, limiting beliefs and limiting emotions, the rest of the team will start to behave differently. This is because they will no longer be affected by the instigating fear based approach of the other team members ego’s unmet needs, limiting beliefs and limiting emotions. The other team members will start to behave in a different way. It is one of those “laws of the universe”.

There is no longer an underlying fear based fight for;

* Approval – while the team member is trying to unconsciously seek approval from others, they cannot give approval to others and this in turn will trigger the others to seek more approval
* Control – while the team member is trying to unconsciously seek control over others, they trigger the need to control in others and there is a power struggle
* Worthiness – while the team member is trying to unconsciously get their need of worthiness met through others, they trigger the unmet needs of worthiness in others because their unmet needs of worthiness is actually taking energy away from those that need it the most instead of giving them energy
* Safety – while the team member is trying to unconsciously meet their need of safety from others, they unknowingly trigger the unmet need of safety in others